How to Cope With a Job You Hate

So you can get through it during a job search

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Not many people love their jobs, and enjoying it every day is probably unrealistic, but you shouldn’t hate your job.

And I’m not saying that so you feel like you should change who you are, and how you view your job because you shouldn’t be miserable.

But what I am saying, is that you should think about re-evaluating where you are in your career journey so you can get unstuck from a job you hate.

No one should dread every day at work.

Whether it’s a coworker you can’t deal with, ethics in the workplace, a control freak boss, or micromanagers breathing down your neck…no one deserves to feel miserable at work.

Let’s face it, it’s where we spend the majority of our time, in most cases.

So, if you know something’s just not right in your current job, it’s probably time to move on. But while you’re deciding where you should move to next, you’ll need help coping with the misery of your current job so you can focus on creating a better path for yourself.

These tips will help you free up bandwidth so you can manifest a more positive outlook on your future career instead of getting knocked down by the dread of your current job.

Nope, I’m not saying to settle or just be content in your current job until you move on. In fact, I’m hoping you start the mental process of moving forward.

Because your current job is not your permanent residency. You’re on your way out.

You’re starting the transition today, and even though you may have to go to work so you can pay the bills while you start making the transition to a new role, you can let the weight of your current job lift because…

…it’s not permanent.

You’re already in the process of moving on, quitting, and you’re well on your way to the day you can say,

Take this job and shove it.

Career Changes Are Normal

If you feel guilty about not liking the job your in today, staaahp right now.

I don’t care if you’ve got two Ph.D.’s in this field, and you spent years getting here…it’s normal to want to grow and change, or even move into a new field altogether.

Because, as I always say, you’re always changing.

The average person changes their jobs 12 times in their lifetime, that’s doubled from the previous six times…and it’s completely normal.

Moving up the latter, pivoting to a new career, and other transitions are all ways of reaching your highest potential.

So, please, please, please do not beat up on yourself for deciding the job your in is no longer serving you and your life purpose.

If You Hate Your Job, Make A Plan

If you’re stuck in a pattern of reverting to the familiar, no matter how uncomfortable it is, it’s time to make an actionable plan and break out of the cycle.

Stop job searching and then giving up because it’s so much work to find something new. Yeah, I see you out there.

Identify what you want to pivot into, and make a plan to transition by a certain date.

That way, you have something to look forward to, and an end in sight.

Identify Your Career Style

If you’ve been in this position a few times in your life…hating your current gig, maybe you’re not cut out for the role you’re in.

For example, if you’re in corporate, higher education, or another office job where you report to a hierarchy of bosses and micromanagers, maybe you’re better suited for entrepreneurship (ie being your own boss).

Now, more than ever, it’s easier to build a business and be your own boss.

Freelancing and contract work is becoming the norm and specializing in sought after skills can earn you big bucks if you’ve got the discipline to manage your day-to-day work activities.

Recognizing that you’re often bored in the same roles over and over and over may mean you’re just ready for a new way to work.

  • Have you always dreamed of working for yourself?
  • What about building a business that you can pass on to your children?
  • Or, are you just sick of your talents making someone else rich?

Friend, I’ve been there, and if you’ve got that fire in your belly to do your own thing, I’m begging you to make a plan and just do it.

Dreaming about these things is ok, and when you start to feel like an imposter (“who am I to think I can start my own business”) Here my voice….SHUSH up!

Because if someone else can do it, why can’t you?

Lastly, if you can’t stand another day in the cube, then quit cold turkey. Especially if you’ve got a great plan for your future, and it’s well-thought-out.

Make sure your finances are in order, or you have an in-between job picked out, and just leave the crappy job behind and walk out with your head held high, and move on to your new plan.

Don’t Lose your Dignity Between Jobs

If you need to make some cash between jobs, or while you pivot to passion, grab my free money-making tips guide. I promise, you won’t lose your pride over these gigs.

Need some help pivoting out of a job you hate? Check out my 1:1 coaching program designed to help you pinpoint your passion and transition into a job that makes your heart feel full.

Originally published at on October 13, 2020.

Writer | Oiler | Nature Lover | Goatherd | Authenticity & Intentional Living Coach for Women

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